Tegwyn Fietze – Family and Divorce Mediator

Disputes happen.

In moderation, resolving a dispute can be a healthy indication of an invested partnership seeking common ground and aligned values.

After all, relationships are composed of individuals who bring their unique character, past experiences, and habits. Sometimes it can be challenging to be entirely in tune with one another.

This is to be expected, and it is perfectly normal.

However, disputes can be amplified during separation and divorce, often fuelled by highly charged emotions. This is where mediation plays a crucial role in addressing these issues in a safe and constructive space, allowing emotions to be vented and disputes to be settled in a manner that fosters continued relationships after divorce or separation.

Harmonious interactions are an incredible human experience that brings joy, comfort, stability, resilience, satisfaction, opportunities, and a purpose to our existence. Relationships are imperative.

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Disputes during or after separation can become chronic and not be in the best interests of the children involved.

You may need someone objective and impartial. Someone you can safely discuss things with. Someone who can bring clarity to the situation. As a mediator with no vested interest in the outcome. I can help you through the change management of visualising and implementing a preferred future (a parenting plan).

At a time when you most need to be focused and make the future, you are amid it all and might feel that a resolution is impossible. There are genuine feelings; I understand they may cloud your judgment.

Add strong emotions such as anxiety, anger, denial, defensiveness and fear.

How is a stranger able to address these?

After all, no one walks in your shoes or knows the complete details of your experience. However, you don’t have to tell me your life story for me to be able to help you.

I am here to say that if you value the quality of your life, your relationships, your dependents, your emotions, and your future, you should consider mediation.

It is a matter of meeting with an objective person, such as me, who has the tools and experience to guide you to several possible outcomes while offering you resources that can be implemented until you reach a result that works well. It is about finding the best answer to a complex problem.

So, I encourage you to view your relationships as a long-term situation, even through the separation and divorce process. Having an amicable separation with your children’s best interests at the forefront of the resolution leads to a better quality of life for the whole family.

Let us (you, me, and your ex-partner) discuss issues that have arisen as early as possible and build a solid foundation of peace, trust, and respect, finding ways to navigate the future with clarity. This is in the best interest of any children involved.

HERE IS A LIST OF MANY OF THE DISPUTES THAT MEDIATION CAN HELP RESOLVE:

  • A Child Maintenance Agreement
  • Disputes about Care, Contact, and Residency of Children
  • Disputes between family members and the impact of the extended family on your family
  • Schooling options

THE INTAKE PROCESS

First, I offer a half-hour introductory mediation session via Zoom, attended by both parties.

This is not the mediation, but an opportunity for me to explain the mediation process to you and answer any questions you may have. It also provides us with an excellent opportunity to gauge how we might work together during your mediation sessions.

I will also, at this stage, if both parties agree to mediate with me, send out an intake form. This is where each party will have the opportunity to outline their story and answer intake registration questions briefly. I will also send a mediation agreement document for both parties to sign and return to me. A schedule of costs will be attached to this document or can be discussed in the Zoom session.

Please do not call or email unless to arrange your introduction to a mediation Zoom call. Please do copy one another on all arrangements made with me. This is to protect my impartiality before the mediation begins.

Once this is done, dates and times for online mediation via Zoom or in-person mediation can be arranged to begin the mediation process.